Marriage is NOT a wedding

It seems like the popular question for unmarried couples and single women is, "So when are you going to get married or engaged?" This entry won't be long, because its all pretty much common sense. Marriage is NOT a wedding! Some women are extremely infatuated with one becoming someone's bride.

Divorce rates are extremely high these days and the single woman is starting to become the majority. I believe that women become obsessed with the idea of GETTING married. Women love the planning and the event, but don't focus on the marriage itself. Some women become obsessed with getting someone to marry them. I was once told that I needed to "GET him" to marry me. I replied by saying, "I don't need to GET anyone to marry me." Be secure enough with yourself to be by yourself and then think about marriage. Its becoming more and more common for women to jump from relationship to relationship just to satisfy that itch of "GETTING" someone to marry them, so they can feel complete...9 out of 10 times they'll still have the same issues.

Then there is this stigma that women's highest aim should be marriage. Ha! Serious! That idea has been passed down for centuries and is quite traditional. If mom or dad has expressed to you that you SHOULD be getting married, or that you NEED to find someone to marry, then shame on them. That type of conversation results to extreme low self-esteem and is absolutely ridiculous.

Then there is the "everyone is married/engaged, but me". NOT true! All living women weren't born to get married! Get over yourself!

Here's the advice: Fill your life, live well, and take your time. Women who feel they NEED a man are the most miserable people to be around when they're in a relationship and when they're not.

I am by no means against marriage. I think its a beautiful thing when the focus is the couple. We all think about it happening one day. And that's just it, it may happen ONE DAY. However, when we obsess over it, then it consumes us and takes away from what we should be giving to ourselves way before we even walk down the isle.

Don't be an idiot...there are enough of those running around with fairytale books in tow.

Love,

cee bee ;-)